Going through life you are going to meet a lot of rejection. Its how you handle this rejection that determines how you grow and how you succeed. As the results of my graduate applications begin to trickle in, its about time to start preparing for rejection and how i plan to grow from it.
“Every time I thought I was being rejected from something good, I was actually being re-directed to something better.” – Steve Maraboli
The initial stab of rejection is hard, the first thing you need to do is take a deep breath. Except those painful feelings and then breathe them out; removing them from your thoughts and feelings. For me, the hardest element of rejection is if your not expecting it because you are unable to prepare for those feelings.
The next stage to recovering from rejection is to figure out what possibly went wrong. Its not always possible to get the reasons someone said no to your applications, so you need to have the ability to look back objectively and read around for others who have been rejected and why they think they were.
Finally, you need to decided how you are going to improve yourself for the next time. If your missing some work experience, find some intimate for the next application. If its your entry test, spend more time prepping for the next round.
If you don’t improve after the rejection, your not going to change and you are not going to have that success and growth. With everything crossed that i get accepted to at least one of my applications because i really love it. Alas, what comes will come.
That was all i got when i picked my recent book, via Blind Date with a Book. This book turned out to be Marnie by Winston Graham.
Winston Graham is also the author of the famous Poldark series, and Marnie was no less of a hit, becoming a Hitchcock classic in the 60’s. The book is an incredibly well written psychological thriller; the writing allows you into the mind and motivations of a con artist, feeling the suspense of waiting to get caught.
I enjoyed the book, but i loved the concept behind the blind date. It was a book i was unlikely to pick up based on the cover and blurb, and a genre i do not usually delve into. However, it has kept me warm on these cold, dark winter evening and i would definitely try the process again if i ever hit a what book to pick wall.
I rate my books in the best way i know how; the number of cups of tea its worth. A book i love to read my sat on the sofa, the train or in bed with my favourite cup of tea; so i felt it was the perfect way to express my love for the books i read. Between 1-3 cups, 3 being the best.
This book was rated:
I rated it two cups because i enjoyed the overall theme behind the book. However, it was obvious to me that its a 50 year old book, because the plot is antiquated. I would still recommend the book however for psychological thrill seekers and people interested in the 60’s era.
The last few days have been chaotic: i’ve spent them cramming information into my brain for both my neuroscience exam yesterday and my interview tomorrow. Its funny how you think you have so much time to balance and complete work before time flies and suddenly its the day. I have, over the last few years, gotten over my habit of cramming for an exam. However I always end up still going over information the night before. I find it amusing how it goes along those lines, I think its a habit created to hide my nervousness about taking exams.
Over the years I have come across, or has forced at me, numerous methods for revising for an exam. From colours, to que cards and condensing. I’ve never quite been able to find the right method and have started to combine the range of methods into some convoluted mashup of revision. Its ironically like cramming. Throwing as much information at my head in as many ways possible in the hope that my brain absorbs at least something.
Often enough it works for the short term, I remember enough to get through the exam but often dont retain the information for longer than a few weeks at best. So I am spending the evening rereading the information about my interview location, the style and any other possible answers for questions they could throw at me.
Its just a short rambling post this time around, there has been a lot of revision going on and therefore nothing to interesting for me to blog about. Hopefully that will improve in the next few days and I can let you into some interesting things i’ve gotten upto.
I’ve reached my revision limit; which is probably not a good thing three days before my neuroscience exam. There is something about revision that means you eventually get so fed up of it that you actually can’t take it.
Not saying that i don’t enjoy neuroscience, its been an interesting and intellectually challenging module; it has however shown me the power of revision as you go, because trying to revise at the end of the module… is draining me mentally.
I’ve spend the day alternating between menial household tasks and attempting revision. Its less about motivation and more about beating the boredom and procrastination that happens when you only study one topic.
and on that note i ought to go and do some revision…
People revise in different ways, but for many students late nights are the time they really shine. For me I prefer late nights, its often quieter at home, but it can also has its drawbacks.
The pro’s for me are definitely the peace and quiet. Most of my house goes to sleep at 8:30ish so anytime after that I can be assured of no distractions. I also seem to work better in the evening; I can be a morning person when I want to be, but I do prefer afternoon lectures or evening revision if I have the choice. I am often more awake and able to focus more on what I need to do.
The con’s for me can also be the need to be quiet, so I don’t wake anyone up; I also dislike what happens when you let the boredom take over, because I often fall asleep. The quiet can be both positive and negative; it requires you to focus but means I cant go downstairs for a cup of tea because boiling the kettle is so loud.
I have however found a way of late night revision that works when I need it too. Its definitely not a frequent choice, but I find it gives me a boost if i’m facing multiple days revising in a row. You’ve probably guessed from the image that its a 24hr Starbucks. I am very fortunate to have a 24hr Starbucks available less than a ten minute drive away. Late at night, like it is when I write this, there is no one there, so its quiet and the wifi speed is excellent. It also has almost unlimited drinks options, I tend to stay away from the tea however, theres just something not quite right about tea at Starbucks for me.
Its definitely not a frequent thing, it would cost the earth to keep the habit up, but its great at bringing my motivation up when I need it and allows me to wake up and get away from the dangerous distractions at home.
Late night studying might not suit everyone, but its a reality for most people, either because of work, family or general preference. So having a motivational boost, or even celebration for late night coursework success is vital to keeping you motivated when you start hitting the exam countdown.
To celebrate the completion of my winter coursework, i spent the day yesterday baking cake!
I went with a Lemon and Poppyseed Loaf, both at the request of my boyfriend and because its the first cake i ever baked alone and i love the recipe. Its also perfect with a cup of tea and a book which is how i spent my evening.
I’ve long forgotten where i got the recipe from but it is a perfect recipe for me, with a long slow bake to allow me to get other stuff done; i submitted other uni work whilst doing laundry as my cake baked.
Lemon and Poppy Seed Loaf
175g Caster Sugar
2 Large Lemons
3 Medium Eggs
250g Self Raising Flour
50g Poppy Seeds
4 tbsp natural yogurt
Preheat the oven to 150°c and completely grease your loaf tin.
Beat butter until light and creamy before adding sugar and beating until almost white.
Whisk in eggs and the zest of both lemons, one by one. With the last egg also add a spoonful of flour.
Fold in the remaining flour, poppyseed and yogurt.
Bake for 1hr 10mins before removing and leaving to cool for ten minutes in tin.
Turn out of tin, poke small holes all over cake and add the juice of one lemon.
OPTIONAL – I like a crunchy topping on my loaf cake so take the juice of the second lemon and add icing sugar to create a simple water icing, i then pour this all over my cake whilst on a baking rack to run off.
As this post comes live i am in the middle of an interview that could change my life. I can’t go into specifics… yet… but what i can say is that it has given me the chance to reflect on something you often try not to think about, weakness.
Weakness for me is being vulnerable; its a major reason why i rarely drink. I have a major fear of being put into a situation that makes me vulnerable or emotionally reliant on someone else. It makes relationships and friendships hard for me, but so worthwhile when i find the ones i can try to be vulnerable with.
Another weakness for me is criticism, i tend to take it very personally. There was a situation recently where i received a complaint about my care of a patient at work. I had done nothing wrong, was in the presence of my boss, but the words of an angry guest who took her frustrations out on me went straight to me head. I worried about my skills for a good few cases after this, it took my boss sitting me down and assuring me i was doing a good job to pull me out of the funk.
“What breaks you down is not the amount of pressure you feel at one time, but it’s the way you perceive and handle it.” – Ashish Patel
The important thing is knowing how to get over those weaknesses in situations. I know that when i get criticism i need to voice my concerns to people who can help me, ask what i can do better and often get an unbiased opinion on the situation. It often helps you to learn and grow, and you often need a shock such as criticism to help you reach that state.
Knowing what makes you weak increases your strength of character; i hope knowing these weaknesses will help me to show these interviewers that they need me, just as much as i want them… wish me luck!
Happiness is not something you postpone for the future; it is something you design for the present. – Jim Rohn
Happiness is what we strive for, what we do everyday is how we aim to get there. As you grow older you realise happiness is not about success, money or belongings but about feeling you are doing the right thing and enjoying what you do.
Your success and happiness lies in you. Resolve to keep happy, and your joy and you shall form an invincible host against difficulties. – Helen Keller
I’ve learnt a lot about being happy for quotes I’ve read over the years, from books and from social media, and as i am busy prepping for my important interview today i thought id keep this post short with a few of those quotes to hopefully inspire happiness in you all too.
Today I choose life. Every morning when I wake up I can choose joy, happiness, negativity, pain… To feel the freedom that comes from being able to continue to make mistakes and choices – today I choose to feel life, not to deny my humanity but embrace it. – Kevyn Aucoin
As this post goes life i will be working a New Years Eve party, that will probably involve vomit, looking forward to what 2018 will bring.
2018 will be an amazing year, i am certain of it. Not only will i be 21 this year, but i life is finally coming together; i am driving, I’m going back to the job i enjoy and I’m finishing my degree this year!
I’ve really enjoyed the ride this year, and i hope you will all follow me through the next year as i grow.
Most of britain has been covered in deep icy snow, and Flackwell Heath is the same. As you can see from the above picture I’ve had a pretty good snow day.
I live on the top of a giant hill, and most of the roads get shut or a pretty undrivable during the snow; the gritting machines are unable to get up the hill and people died on some the main roads during snow. Its meant I’ve been unable to go to work today and I’ve had the fun day of juggling my two sisters and a very, very excited puppy in the snow.
Casper was especially amusing in the snow, he kept blending in and we kept loosing him in the garden. For puppies first snow he loved it, but has spent most of the day asleep on the window ledge as close to the heater as possible.
With snow forecast through the night i can only hope i am able to escape my dreary village tomorrow, because i have uni and a social life.